It’s every man’s worst nightmare to have a subpar performance in bed, especially when doing it with a hot girl…or worse, with someone you love. Understandably, poor performance may eventually lead to relationship problems. So what exactly are the tricks to how to last longer in bed?
Bigger Loads is here to shed light on this pressing concern. Learn more about sexual stamina and get tips on how to improve your skills in bed with the help of this article. Read on to find out more!
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How to Last Longer During Sex?
Here is the sobering truth: the idea of unlimited or long-lasting stamina is a myth for most men. The muscular studs that have god-like sexual performance are far from reality for the average Joe. While most men are not bestowed with this ability, there are still ways for you to regain your confidence during sexual intercourse. Here are some useful and practical tips that you can apply for a better sex life:
Tip 1
Get support from your sex partner or significant other (if you’re monogamous). It sounds like a no-brainer. But most guys struggle to address this issue with their sex partners.
The fact is getting support and winning their confidence is crucial. With open communication in bed, the other party can have a deeper understanding of what’s going on. It can help in addressing any sense of frustration or disappointment due to the building of sexual tension.
Tip 2
Ever heard of the “Pause-Squeeze” Method? It’s a way of teasing yourself while masturbating or penetrative sex to delay ejaculation. It starts by having sex until you’re about to cum, then pulling out and squeezing the tip of the penis for a few seconds until the need to orgasm fades.
You can consult a sex therapist about this, but the concept is as you stop the flow and let the penis rest, you can go back and increase your time. The squeeze technique is quite tricky and may need a lot of self-control. You can also work on this method and pair it with some sperm volume increase techniques to make you longer in bed and provide sexual pleasure for both you and your partner.
Tip 3
Pelvic floor exercises will do wonders for delayed ejaculation. Before saying that it’s just for women and dismissing it completely, you might want to think twice about doing Kegel exercises. Your pelvic floor muscles are located just below your rectum and prostate and you can strengthen them. Pelvic floor muscles are believed to be weak and when strengthened can delay ejaculation.
For the Kegel exercises to work, it is said that you should think as if you’re preventing yourself from urinating or passing gas/defecating. For best results, you may do 10 repetitions per day. But as always, consult with a therapist before proceeding with any pelvic floor exercises.
Tip 4
If you want heightened ejaculatory control, you can also switch up your sex positions and try new ones. People who practice foreplay (such as genital touching, i.e. clitoral stimulation, using sex toys, and engaging in oral sex) while experimenting with different sex positions can get better sexual stimulation compared to those who don’t.
This is also the perfect opportunity to explore both your and your partner’s sexual desires and help you improve premature ejaculation. You can also learn to cum multiple times and make every sexual activity exciting and enjoyable for you and your fuck buddy/lover.
Tip 5
Consulting with your physician may also help in improving your sexual dysfunction. And this doesn’t end with just a sexual health specialist. You may consult with your attending physician to assess your overall health. Oftentimes, metabolic syndrome, high blood pressure, obesity, and high glucose levels area the culprits that affect how quickly you orgasm.
Taking the necessary precautions to lead a healthy lifestyle can help you improve erectile function and overall, a satisfying sex life.
How Long Should I Last in Bed?
While porn has inadvertently led us to believe that sexual activity can last for hours before reaching orgasm, the truth is that average penile-vaginal intercourse lasts around 6 minutes. Many factors can also affect your sexual experience and how you last longer in bed.
Impotence is one of the main causes that most men feel embarrassed to admit and because of the projection of machismo in media, most men feel pressured to perform longer in bed. The reality is that it’s perfectly normal for the average man to reach orgasm shorter than what they’re expected to be.
There is no standard or proper time on how long a man should hold their orgasm. It’s between the couple or sexual partners to determine the duration that works best for them where both feel satisfied. As mentioned previously, there are many sexual techniques that you can incorporate to last longer in bed.
Why Am I Premature Ejaculating?
While it’s normal for men to finish early from time to time, chronic short orgasms of less than a minute could be telling that someone may experience premature ejaculation. It’s quite difficult to know why premature ejaculation may occur and happen to a person, but some known factors contribute to someone experiencing this condition.
Here are some of the common factors that contribute to premature ejaculation:
- Psychology – People experiencing mental health issues such as anxiety before sexual performance can be linked to premature ejaculation. Individuals who suffer from depression, severe stress, and even low self-esteem may also experience premature ejaculation as a result.
- High Levels of Free Testosterone – Studies are showing that men with higher levels of the “free” male hormone tend to have premature ejaculation. They may also experience lower sex drive and energy levels.
- Lack of Experience – People who are inexperienced with sex may not last longer in bed compared to their peers in general. Those who don’t have sex as often as others may climax faster compared to those who fuck regularly.
- Hormonal Imbalances – The presence of hormonal imbalances in the body, such as hyperthyroidism, may also be attributed to an individual’s premature ejaculation. While most researchers are not sure why thyroid problems can affect someone’s sexual performance, hyperthyroidism treatment may be useful to treat premature ejaculation.
Is There Specialized Help I Can Seek?
Not all hope is lost when it comes to treating premature ejaculation, and yes, there is definitely help you can seek. You can consult with a sex therapist and specialists in also addressing other underlying problems, such as erectile dysfunction. There could be certain medications or treatments to help improve your stamina.
On the other hand, there are natural ways to address premature ejaculation, such as the squeeze technique mentioned earlier. This training guide may also help you improve your sexual health and get better, stronger, and longer in bed the natural way without relying on chemicals and medication. Check out our guide to learn more!